Now here’s the thing about moving back home after graduation, it’s wonderful and absolutely terrible at the same. On one hand, You get to be with your family,it’s free (or almost free) with home cooked meals (no freezer chicken nuggets or pizza rolls insight), and you have your bed again. Not a crappy dorm room bunk bed that pretends to be like your bed, but YOUR own bed. But then, on the other hand, any type of privacy that you had before is out the window. Now there are people who will question your midnight runs to taco bell and your decision to drink coffee after 10 p.m.
At first it doesn’t seem real. It seems like any other winter or summer break but once you’re friends go back to school and you don’t, that’s when the panic sets in. The panic that you don’t have class to fill your time. That you don’t have school to fall back on. But unfortunately that’s not even the worst part, the really terrible part about moving back home after graduation is the do you have a job/what are you doing with your life question. Here’s the reality, most of the time when you move back home its because you were not one of the fortunate to graduate with job offers on the table. Unless you majored in Finance, Accounting, or Engineering or what I like call the “magic” majors, there is usually a large portion of recent grads who are jobless. The job market is tough and it’s getting tougher by the day. It’s not uncommon for recent grads to spend up to six months to a year to find a job in their degree. Of course this changes how we must approach the use of our time while we are waiting for that perfect job.
Now, having nothing to do for a couple weeks after graduation sounds almost euphoric after spending the last four to five years crying into over priced textbooks. But what do you do once you’ve caught up on sleep and watched all your favorite shows on Netflix all the way though for the third time? This is a time in your life where you are in charge. There are so many things to choose from and if you’re anything like me, the more things to choose from, the longer it takes to get somewhere because of the dreaded “what ifs”. But thinking too much of the “what ifs” is something that can be detrimental. It is the time to take life by the horns and live life by your terms before you have to live it by your bosses. So in the words of Shia Labeouf, “Don’t let your dreams be dreams, just do it!” Maybe living life on your terms means making travel a priority, actively trying to give back to your community, or choosing to pass up a job offer for something better. Maybe it’s to start a blog or spend time with your family. It can even be something as simple as joining a yoga class or deciding it’s time to start working out again. Whatever living your life means to you, don’t ever let anyone look down on you for making that a priority.
When moving back home again, it’s easy to focus on the negative rather than the positive. It doesn’t mean all those tears in school were for nothing, though that’s how it can feel. It means you are taking the time to live life the way you want, that for the moment you are completely in charge. So while you spend time at home trying to find that perfect job that makes all those sleepless nights worth it, be the master of your time and live it up! Look towards the future with a bright smile and be unapologetically you!